There are several reasons why we brought this topic into your attention. Having a clingy partner isn't too good and here's our warning to all.
1. Clingy Partner Is Tiring
Although there are people who like clingy attitude more percentage of couples admits they do not like it. Clingy partners tend to be more jealous and seeks constant attention that can be so annoying especially when you need to focus your attention to what is necessary for living.
There are so many aspects of lives involves such as work, family, friends, etc. Having these pressures and stress from everyone around you makes you more impatient to attend or give full attention to a clingy partner. As a result, a partner that is so clingy will start doubting if you are having fun with others or starts cheating.
Clinginess creates so many issues and drama over little things that should be pass and overlooked in a mature relationship. When one starts throwing doubtful words with you, the first natural instinct response from you would be to push him/her away or distance yourself. This way you can have space to breathe.
2. You Could Not Maintain Healthy Mental Space
A clingy partner makes you his/her world. They forget that both of you need good mental space and to have lone time. This doesn't mean bad, but for a clingy person whose eye on you is a red flag. They forget that they need to take care of themselves more.
Clingy partner does not have interaction with others or to the world because you are his/her world. You need to update them even on little things that aren't really necessary and important. Well, that doesn't mean those are bad...but when you forget to text them because you are busy catching up deadlines at work, you face another battle facing them knowing they are already mad.
3. You Become Clingy Too, Unconsciously
Hitch up with a clingy partner and you understand how it transforms and become you too. Little by little you will exhibit those traits even to your friends. I mean, it always nice to hit some friends when you miss them but with a clingy partner, your mentality will adapt unto such.
Your friend will start getting annoyed when it becoming like a chore or duty for them to update you because once they didn't you felt left out. You'd find yourself seeking and begging more attention from them which can be annoying.
4. It's Difficult To Balance Relationship With Others
With a clingy partner, you will definitely find it is harder for you to cope up with other relationship such as friendship because all of your time will be on your partner. You have to remember, your friends are your friends and would be there for you once your relationship will not work so do not let your need for love makes you forget you have friends.
5. It Forces You To Do The Work
It would be nice to do things naturally. Clingy partners always put reminders that you need to do this and that so that it won't raise conflict between the two of you. The more things you have to watch out, the more rigidity toils you.
6. Their Happiness Depends On You
By all means, avoid a clingy person. They are the one that depends their happiness on you. If you are not in the mood, they will get eccentric too. Now, nothing solves when both of you could not stand on your own for happiness.
We have our own time to feel low and down. This time when you need some source for strength and encouragement, a clingy person may not be able to give it to you because they aren't happy with your state or condition. You need to be well first before they feel okay too and often times you find yourself pretending to be happy just so the relationship won't get ugly.
Clinginess often caused by low self-esteem or insecurity. A clingy partner manifests such behavior because they aren't sure their partner really like them 100% and they have fear you will leave them one day. The clingy attitude was deeply rooted in their childhood experience or past relationship that is why it would be difficult for them to undo or behave otherwise.
Though some may find this cute, others find this exhausting. You hardly win in any negotiation or compromise with a clingy partner and soon you'd figured out the complication you'd entered so before it is too late, watch out not to have a clingy partner.
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