A relationship for a narcissist is just like a business deal. Their ultimate goal is to get what they want at a lesser cost or price. Therefore, emotions are well-managed; it is more after their goal. For a male narcissist, a relationship is for good and easy lay or sex, or to have you as their trophy. For females, they are more of costly courtship and dating, more gifts, and acts of services in the name of love.
It is important to read what's on the mind of a narcissist when it comes to their relationship or the way they treat their partner. Mostly, they never take for granted how they look or present themselves that is why it is guaranteed to say that they are really attractive physically and for you to get them, you must enhance their ego or their status. It is their sole motivation to be with their partner. If you a narcissist think they could not get anything being with you, trust me one time you feel like shit or trash for them.
Narcissist plays in the relationship and winning is their main objective. They will get their need from different or a multitude of people with less or no demand on their part to meet the other's need. If you are seeing these signs below, then there is a high probability that a narcissist partner is playing with you.
✓Disappearing or ghosting
✓Hot and cold treatment
✓Sneaky and lying
✓Flirting others in front of you
✓Refusal to tackle issues or relationship
✓Withhold feelings
✓Don't make the first move to call or text you
How Narcissist Behave In Social Group
A narcissist is naturally charming and seductive, especially in a crowd. They are engaging and conversationalist. In fact, their emotional intelligence is far higher than normal people. They can perceive and understand what is on your mind and knows how to get the reaction they want from you or from the people around them. Needless to say, they are born emotional blackmailer, most of the time.
A narcissist person isn't boring. They will shower you with so much generosity and attention. They like to have your attention all the time, but watch out because, in time, they will pull away. Those of lesser self-esteem is an easy target for narcissist as they are the one that would cling for their presence. They may not intentionally lie however, they are good with deception. A narcissist will say she/he is busy at work, but omitting the part that at the end of the day they still go out for a date with someone.
It is super dangerous to have interest with a narcissist. They have a higher tendency to gaslight or exploit you. For them, power is much important than intimacy. While the goal for intimacy only to get more power over you, they are noncommittal and wanted to have much control in a relationship. Once they lost their interest in you, or get what they want, it is all over for them leaving you devastated and hopeless. Although it is possible that a narcissist can develop a feeling towards their partner, they lack the motivation to keep the romance or love and when they didn't get what they want, they will become more critical towards you or become cold and angry.
How To Protect Yourself!
1. Equipping with knowledge about how a narcissist behaves allows you to understand better if someone is a narcissist at the early stage of dating.
2. When someone is not interested in you or seems like busy to have time for you but aren't busy with others, walk away from their life.
3. Trust your instinct. A confrontation may or may not need so learn what approach suits best for the situation.
4. Refrain from disturbing them or sending them a message. For the right person, there is no need for them to be absent in your life unless for a valid reason but if you are a woman, never and never chase a male narcissist.
5. Share your feelings and be clear if you want nothing from treatment. They can deny all they want but do not allow it to overpower your judgment whether they want you in their life or just being polite with you.
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