Living with life with someone whom you can lean on at any times, knowing there is someone to catch you is a really amazing feeling. When things didn't work out after some time, it is expectedly tough for one to move on. Moving on after a break up is never an easy process yet we still come to it at some point in our life or another.
When you already starting to accept and feel better than the last time you check but here comes your ex back to texting you or checking up on you again, you'll feel confused. Few weeks in the past they had treated you bad, even calling you names just to push you away. A few time after that, you are convinced that they no longer wanted you around.
The text they sent at wee hours, asking how are you doing or a simple 'like' on one of your post on social media just didn't go along with their hurtful words weeks back. These acts lead you to think they still want to be with you. In some way, it makes you hold on, waiting for whatever step they might take soon, after all, you've been with that person for a long time and you do not want to throw it all in an instant for some things you two could not manage to resolve.
You paused the moving on process.
Then it happens. Communications stop completely. You noticed they started chatting and mingling with someone else. There you are, traveling back to the days when breaking up is still fresh and it once again shattered your heart into millions of pieces. The more you try to understand their actions, the more you get confused.
Don't Succumb In Confused State
The last thing you want in your most vulnerable moment is to feel more humiliated, anxious, and insecure. You realized how your moods were totally affected by the way your ex's actions.
Your mind may continue to replay those incidents and you find yourself asking questions you've already asked in the past. However, it is impossible to get some answers or explanations.
What happened?
Is he/she stringing you along?
Were they playing with your feelings?
Does it mean there is no chance of you two getting back to each other's arms?
Why he/she can't get their act all to coincide?
You feel the need to gain back control of your emotions over what is uncertain the soonest possible time so you start finding answers obsessively. Your emotions clouding over the situational view of what is the right and best road to walk through.
This is the 'hope' pit that you need to get out off. A lot were driving you crazy and for sure, you will cling to any slight sign of hope that tells your ex will come back. You refrain yourself from fully letting go. While in this state, you are both hopeful and hopeless. A nice treatment from your ex can relieve you momentarily, then when he turns cold again, you feel horrible like the truth slapping on your face again. The only sure thing here is that there will always be enlightenment after the tunnel of the dark. Whether you will like what shall you discover or not, well, that is just it!
How This Affects Your Moods
Due to anxiety or stressful situation, your mind tends to web stories that could pacify your emotional turmoil. At once, you had 100 percent confirmation that your ex is an asshole. Blocking them on social media you both connected is just right...even deleting those old photographs you had on your album is JUST. On some corner of your mind, it's telling you your ex regretted things. It is just a matter of time, then either one of you will find a way to make up for things. At hyper enforcement from yourself, you feel at ease and confident, but ends depressed and even more confused when evidence starts to convey you get things wrong.
Even if you tried your best to wrap things in your head to avoid conflicting information, it still does. So, what are these mixed signals mean? Check below to learn more.
1. He is uncertain or having second thoughts
During this time, your ex might be uncertain or having second thoughts of getting back with you. He/she do not know if he/she needs to hold on or to move on. This is normal since decision like this could entirely affect or create your future. They probably resort to breaking up with you because issues are not resolved the way it eases them as well. They want to be close to you yet not want to completely get back to your old state because they are giving themselves the allowance time to lessen their hurt. This can minimize the feeling of being overwhelmed to future that you may no longer be there and to make confirmation of their own decision. How had this hypothesis can back up the concealed truth? Fact, they aren't blocking you at all possible means. They might block you on Facebook but not on other social media platforms, leaving the slight possibility of getting any news from you.
2. They Are Used To It
Breaking up and making up, if these two had become a routine in a relationship your ex may see it just any normal thing that happens again and soon you will pull back again. They do not feel any threat because they know that at some aspect of your life, you are dependent on them. Even if that person is not committed to you, knowing that you have trembled at the thought of them going in your life is so much pleasing for them. They see tormenting you were rewarding or as a form of getting even with you. So, as much as this person does not have any plan to commit themselves fully to you they never want to see you completely go, too. How this possibility can ever true? Well, if they check on your work or business state. They would likely to express that it would be beneficial to you to stick along with them, rather than going on your own without them. They want to know what is your decision or had you decided on that yet.
3. They Want To Slowly Detaching Themselves From You
A mixed signal from the person whom you broke up with just entails that they are preparing you to be alone. They do not want to drop it all on you the effect, even though they had already exploded the bomb. For them, it is hurting to see you going through such deep sorrow of losing them so they will try to carry some guilt for the pain you'd gone through. They keep in touch with you in the hope that it will minimize your pain, unknowing that they are hurting you more than necessary. This happens when a person has underlying psychological issues in themselves that tend to evaluate possible consequences of their actions to what is highly probable. How do we say this? Well, if they keep monitoring your health every time they reconnect with you. You feel their need to help you, in fact, they will volunteer to be of your service just to lessen their guilt. This happens especially if they realized it had been their fault, it is their own doing why you are in such state.
We hope, somehow you had seen our views and make possible right approach whether you keep hanging on or to totally move on from your situation.
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