Truth, we had seen married couple feeling regret that they married to their spouse today. They seem to have that common denominator when they find marriage life isn't as exciting as they thought it was when they were dating. Seemingly, their responsibilities tend to catch them up and everyday stress are overwhelming for them to have fun together. But here's our tip on how to make your relationship with your partner more loving.
1. Don't be too critically for them
Loving someone imperfect could challenging especially when they did something that hurts you. Somewhere down those years, you've been together they will stupidly do things without thinking that it could hurt or make their partner annoyed or mad at them. Trying to magnify the faults or imperfection you see with your partner could tend to make them become unloving and this would create distance.
You would try to defend yourself that you are letting them know what they did wrong, but in actual sense, you are making them see they aren't good enough for you. It would be better if you will just let them realize it on their own, rather than trying to make them do what you think is right.
2. Be More Kind
Instead of becoming a critic to your partner that would create friction in your marriage, your best approach is to be more understanding. Think they are doing things that way because they got real reason, even if that reason isn't supposed to be right in your eyes but for them that one is right and just.
When you show more patience and acceptance, the more it will create good vibes that open his/her eyes of how good you are. This will enforce him to be deserving for you and make changes that surprise you.
3. Burn Down Unpleasant Memories
Act like those unpleasant memories are already gone and make it genuine. Sometimes this could be tough when things are still hurting you that is why you need silent time to heal on your own. Don't make bad memories keep in between you and your partner because this can make you both uncomfortable.
When something done aren't amicable, it would be better to stay silent and not give in to your rancor thoughts. If you want to keep the romance alive you have to learn first to filter those hurtful memories in silence. Do this without stepping on disrespectful act that can sabotage what can still be mended and comes in a clean slate after your comprehension.
4. Know How To Raise Trivial Queries Without Being Sarcastic
A person could sense if you are asking things just to confirm your decreasing faith in them. Some people will give you the satisfaction if doubts are already starting to cloud your mind, while others will take effort to clarify you and make you at peace. But you are not sure how would your partner will react to it so you have to raise questions in a way that would not drive you apart, but would actually strengthen the bond.
5. Be Good To Yourself
Think it this way, if you know that what you get from your partner will just hurt you be nice to stay out of it. Give your partner time to comfortably open things with you because they could sense when that time be.
In marriage, when any little thing could disrupt your trust and faith with the other person it is sometimes crucial to give leeway on asking for the mere naked truth. It is a natural reaction for people to protect and to hide those things that they know aren't pleasant to discover as it would affect their relationship with you and you must respect that. It does not really mean that it is a bad thing because when marriage is at stake, you would never want to create damage that isn't repairable. Giving them leeway are your extension to make peace with you so you won't feel like 'ah, you intentionally did it!' On normal accord, no person would intentionally hurt the other because it isn't just right but if you keep pushing the end you might regret it because now, it is too much for repair.
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