Communications is vital in any relationship. You have to learn to express your thoughts to your partner so there be less misconception and misunderstandings. If you are an outspoken person, then this is good. It means you can't sit in one corner being silent and you find just anything to talk about. It could spice up a conversation especially if you hit some deeper button, don't you think same as mine?
On Being Outspoken
Candid, frank, or outspoken---whatever you choose to label it has benefits. Should you be selling something, we sure you get a high sale. The same goes with interaction with people. You are marketing yourself as you speak because you are letting those whom you talk to who you are and what are your thoughts.
It is common traits of women, in fact, to be outspoken. To be noisy for just any topic they can talk about. That is why we see most in the entertainment world that women dominate over men simply because the woman could naturally make herself a center of attention just by being outspoken. It is hard on the male population that you can find this nature.
The Ugly Side Of Being Outspoken
Just as there are good benefits you can get from being outspoken and candid, there are also damaging effects this trait could bring especially to some people who naturally want a peaceful and solemn company.
At some circumstances, you really do not have to be always outspoken. There are things better not to talk about, and there are things to be highlighted in a relationship. Do not make a fuss as being outspoken just tells that you are 100 percent honest to your partner. Come on, are you really sure you are hundred percent honest to him/her?
Yes, just what we are saying there are things you better keep your mouth shut. It means respect. If things are so trivial, sometimes a moment of silence is needed than having a talk with your partner which could, how we know would just bring tension. However, we could not blame those outspoken people because it is their nature to talk about whatever they feel about. It is in themselves and the need to just let it out is too heavy to contain it within themselves, yet by doing so they unconsciously hurt those people that aren't supposed to. It creates distance and makes your partner becomes more avoidance of such the same scenario because they know how you shall react.
Silence Isn't Good Either
On the flip side, you could not just stay silent over some matters that are so trivial in your relationship with the other person. Being silent could also make them perceive that you are taking care of negative emotions within you and they do not want to feed those emotions more. Yet, in any way, your partner can, unconsciously.
What we have in here is the right time to talk and the right way to talk. You need not be speaking your thoughts all the time. Silence commence things better over talk, and it allows healing which you also want to have rather than fumes your partner to get angrier or distance.
There is a right approach in talking, just as there is time to be quiet. It won't entirely hurt if at once in a while you be timid to talk. Pausing to narrate your opinions just not to hurt your partner takes you further in strengthening your bond, same as you did when you are being communicative with your thoughts with them.
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