To tell you, this kind of questions though the fact is so broad on its concept. Like in what area in your life you feel stuck? How stuck are you? I mean in genuine sense and not just a mere feeling.
Are you reaching a crossroad or dead end in your progress in life and you do not know where you are heading now? Was it a total makeshift of career or transfer of responsibility or say, promotion? Or it entails about your current love life status, or you are not ready to tie the knot or have kids? Or perhaps you see yourself in a situation where you want to get out, but there seems no way out? Are you spending 12 years on your job and you get sense that you aren't progressing anymore yet you know that at this age it would be tough for you to get another job? Or maybe you know you need to get out, but you do not see what's on the other side--was it much better and worth taking a risk? Thoughts like this, I presumed make you feel like everything is on hold.
Is There A Level Of How Stuck Are YOU?
It is natural for us, human to have the instinct to calculate how deep the shit we'd slipped. We know if it is temporary, permanent, or indefinite stuck. Most often, this feeling magnifies itself if there isn't changes done, leaving you in the edge of frustration and making you more upset. Ultimately, you lost your will to change your situation and resign to what you thought fate has for you, knowing this you are also moving farther from the goals you want in your life and subconsciously killing your passion to survive.
Yes, I have seen and witnessed how discouragement could damage a person whom I know with high potentials simply because he could not get free. For others, the more intense they feel of being stuck the more they strive for change until they are set free, while others if I may recall resigned to its fate with a discouraged soul, no different than living a nonsense life. As an everyday sentiment, he would say he was in prison cell, only up to eat then get back to sleep.
Let me asked you, could you remember how you get into that situation? When was the first time you feel like that? What happened back then?
Here Are Some Possibilities Of That
The mere reason if we sum it up of why you feel stuck as you are now in life is because you are too scared to take the risk. You are so mindful of making mistakes. Should I say you play safe and unfortunately, things didn't unfold the way you need it. You got it different from what you entirely expected. Now, it makes you unsatisfied and leads you to feel stagnant.
What possibly be the cause of this? For one, you are not sure of what you want. You don't have a concrete vision of how you see your future. You do not construct your goal according to your dream and even though you are working everyday to meet your responsibilities and obligation, you do not feel the sense of fulfillment.
So, let us try to figure out what could have been missing along the way. One possibility, you don't get the support or help you need. Each people has an area on which he/she excels the most, and you do not have to take or rely all to yourself. You have to pick of which talent or skill this person you can have of help to ease your problem. Two, you lack the mentor or advice from elders, or you do not have a good council of people on your side. This is crucial because not everything you know even if you are an astute and wide reader. Accept it or not, there is still something that you do not know that probably your mentor knows. The mentor influences much their students in a way that it is where motivation and inspiration are coming.
Another possibility of why you are in the stuck situation probably because you aren't working towards your objective or your real want; now you are in that situation you begin your endless comparison. Making a comparison over what the other person has leads you to an extreme feeling of sadness and dissatisfaction. This isn't good because you will now start to question your life. Eventually, feeling of being stuck follows, then you will also feel like you do not accomplish anything and while this could turn into a driving force or motivation to work hard, sometimes it ends wearing you out.
How To Resolve This? How Can You Get Moving?
1. Acceptance
You sure aren't in a good state that you probably wish. This aren't surprising though however, for you to get out and refrain yourself from feeling rotten is to ACCEPT.
2. Willingness To Step Out
Things will keep getting into a cycle unless you make something to step out of that situation. In your current state, the necessity to create actions for chance will prevent further frustration so if you think the reason you are feeling stuck is brought by your insufficient vision of your goal in life, then be realistic and set it straight. Make sure you draft things according to what is most important as to know which core of the action is aligned for that.
3. Having Your Motivation
When you are done with the second, now is the time you start realizing your motivation behind your ardent desire to unstuck yourself. This will help you forget why you are so scared to take the plunge. Eventually, small changes will make you uncomfortable but its way encouraging as well.
4. Remember You Aren't Alone
There are so many like you who had been feeling stuck and not feel disconnected unto their real goal. Like that, it is alright to forgive yourself for such misstep and proceed. We are already in the digital era, and everything you need will be one click away--be it an online counseling or affirmation/support from a stranger--anything is possible. But one thing you must bear in mind, that people couldn't get out of the shit because they didn't actively search for help.
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