Most relationships begin happily then after months or years, it becomes toxic and negative. It is true that it needs ample effort and hard work to maintain it otherwise it becomes unhealthy and before you realized it, you are trapped unhappy and regretful for the time you waste on that person. Since we do not want those unfortunate scenarios of being unappreciated or having someone but still feeling lonely, here are the warnings you must not overlook when being in a relationship.
1. He/She Does Not Accept You For Who You Are
Each person has bad and good traits. While it is easily to say that you accepted your partner as they are, there are still traits or fact about him/her that you may find annoying or irritating like she's too talkative or clumsy. Hearing critics that you are not dressing well makes one person strives to be better but what if you just can't be. Accept that there are things in you that you could not change, for that this will cause fights that later will make you think that this won't work.
2. Arguments/Conflicts Are Most Often
Are you having too many fights rather enjoying peaceful company with your partner? Even these things are inevitable in a relationship it must not exceed to an alarming rate. Fights and conflicts cause hurt and reduce intimacies with your partner if you both do not know how to pulls back to each other. Do you feel your feelings fades away when she/he irritates at you? This annoyance and anger always had a negative effect on relationships rather than good. If this happens, you feel being pushed away.
3. Needs Not Being Met
A person is in a relationship because they need each other. For women, they need to feel love and for men, they need to be respected. The thing is, not all women know how to respect their man and not all men know how to love their woman. When one feels like this need aren't met he/she will feel unhappy or unappreciated which causes conflict.
4. You Do Not Have Same Vision And Goals
Having a partner who does not have the same goals as you cause frustration. If you are want to settle while your partner still wants to travel then you aren't on the same page. If you think you are already in a serious relationship or commitment, talk about your plans. It is not a mistake if you have different interest but you must know you are on the same boat with your partner.
5. You Feel You're The Only One Working And Putting Effort On The Relationship
It takes two to tango. Don't be trapped in a relationship where only you works for it because later you will get tired doing that. It is difficult to be in a situation where you keep giving while the other person enjoys getting without giving anything on it.
6. You Both Struggle To Trust Each Other
If there isn't trust in a relationship, you better cut that off. In fact, when you are in a relationship trust is a minimal thing. You should have faith with your partner. How much do you trust him/her? Can you confidently sleep at night with a peace that whatever the situation he/she will not betray your trust? Or you constantly peep how they are doing when you are not around?
7. You or Your Partner Are Still Open For Other Potential Mate
If you feel that your partner isn't totally committed in a relationship with you, it is an ultimate sign that he/she is not sure of you yet. This could mean they are still flirty with the opposite sex or they still entertain suitors. We know that there are dating couples who do this thing especially if they are in a long distance relationship, hence it only serves as a warning not to invest too much for this type of relationship if they do not have full conviction that you are the one they want to spend their future to save yourself from heartaches.
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